Having a positive self-image is the foundation for being truly happy in life. But positive self-image goes far beyond what you see in the mirror everyday. It’s having a positive view of your entire self, from your thoughts and feelings to actions and capabilities.
We’re all going to be challenged, both personally and professionally. You may even find yourself in compromising positions that make you question your values or second-guess who you are. That’s when having a positive self-image matters most. It’s what helps us avoid getting crushed by rejection and motivates us to keep pushing for our dreams.
Whether your self-image has taken a beating and you’re looking to regain your inner strength or you’re as positive as can be, it never hurts to check in with yourself for a tune-up. Here are 10 rules people with positive self-image always follow:
Give yourself credit.
While it sounds simple enough, how often have you attributed something you achieved to luck or being in the right place at the right time? People with a strong self-image attribute their accomplishments to their own hard work and efforts.
People with positive self-image are present and in the moment. They don’t focus on regrets, nor do they spend time longing for a future.
Keep it real.
If you’re at all prone to dramatizing, you’ll appreciate this. People with positive self-image don’t over-exaggerate. They generally see things as they are without catastrophizing them and have an ability to remain levelheaded when things get complicated.
Don’t dwell on things.
It can be hard to do, especially if you’re really disappointed about the outcome of a major event. But people with a good self-image don’t have time to dwell on negative outcomes. Instead, they look for ways they can learn from the experience and figure out how to improve for next time
Stay in control of your emotions.
This doesn’t mean that people with positive self-image aren’t emotional. Not at all. What it does mean is that they aren’t ruled by them. Their relationships with others aren’t at the mercy of their moods.
Grudges and harboring negative feelings doesn’t serve them in any way. They’re skilled at letting go of negativity and making room for more positivity in their lives.
Don’t worry about the Joneses.
They don’t compare themselves to others. They are happy to be on their path, wherever that may be.
Be kind to yourself.
I’m not talking about getting a massage, though self-care is important. But people with good self-image don’t beat themselves up over things that are out of their control.
Know that perfection is an illusion.
We’re all striving to better ourselves in various ways, but if we have unrealistic goals, we’re in for a lot of disappointment.
Take time to be grateful for what you have.
Practicing gratitude can immediately lighten your mood and improve your outlook on life. Daily practice can have lasting effects on your self-image.